Maybe death isn’t darkness after all, but so much light wrapping itself around us... scalding, aortal light, in which we are washed and washed, out of our bones
— Mary Oliver, White Owl Flies Into and Out of the Field
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Funeral

It is a privilege and a deep honour, to hold space, to facilitate the funeral rites for an individual and their family, friends and community. Funerals and memorials are significant for many reasons; they offer a shared way to gather, to acknowledge the death of a loved one and to celebrate an individual’s life. They are also incredibly significant for those who are grieving. While every individual’s experience and process of grief is particular and personal, a funeral or memorial can help to enable the grieving process and can offer healing. 

I work as a celebrant within civil funeral ceremonies and memorials, and these are as individual as the people and families that I work with. My role is to support the planning and delivery of the ceremony. A large part of this role is to listen; to what the family want and need, so I can best honour the person who has died and to hold space for those present. There are many different forms that the ceremony can take and various rituals which can be included. Location and place should not be limited to a chapel or crematorium. Often a favourite place which was significant or meaningful can be another way to honour the person and their life. 

Finally, while words can seem impossible and almost meaningless in the face of loss, language can also be healing and comforting. My skills as a writer and a poet work to acknowledge, celebrate and respectfully mourn the person who has died. Language can be very powerful in assisting us to cross a threshold to be with our grief and to speak the poetry of an individual’s life. 

If you would like more information about my work, or to discuss a ceremony, please head to the contact page found here.